Ashli Freesmeyer · Self leadership coaching
You already know better.
So why do you keep doing it?
I'm Ashli. I work privately with self-aware adults who keep repeating patterns they can already name: people-pleasing, over-explaining, second-guessing, boundaries that slip. YOU vs you is my eight-week intensive for closing the gap between knowing better and doing differently.
Live on Zoom: Tuesday, September 22, 2026 at 7:00 PM CDT
- Eight weeks, private one to one
- First intake limited to six clients
The movement
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Most of the patterns that frustrate you are not mysteries. You can name them. You can usually predict them. What you have not had is a reliable way to get from noticing them to choosing something different while it is still happening.
YOU vs you is built for that gap. It is not about becoming a more disciplined version of yourself. It is about seeing the rule underneath the pattern, creating a real choice point, and practicing the decision until it is yours.
The goal was never to become someone who had all the answers. It was to become someone who could lead herself without needing to.
Who this is for
Self-aware adults who are done being surprised by themselves.
Often women. Often the capable one in the room. People who recognize themselves in patterns like:
- people-pleasing
- over-explaining
- approval-seeking
- indecision
- second-guessing
- perfectionism
- procrastination
- weak boundaries
- overcommitment
- resentment
- uncertainty about what you want
If you have already done real self-work and still find yourself in the same places, this is for you.
The method
Ten movements. One practice.
We do not teach all of it up front. Each week adds one piece you can actually use.
- 01Notice
- 02Regulate
- 03Separate
- 04Trace
- 05Question
- 06Listen
- 07Choose
- 08Act
- 09Observe
- 10Update
About Ashli
Warm, candid, and not interested in performing certainty.
Ashli works privately with a small number of people at a time. Her coaching is direct and unhurried: less interested in what you already know about yourself, more interested in what actually happens in your week, in the moment the old pattern shows up.
Free live webinar · Zoom
YOU vs you
Why you keep repeating patterns you already know better than, and how to finally become the one making the decision.
Tuesday, September 22, 2026 at 7:00 PM CDT
One working hour. A short live exercise. Details on the Intensive at the end, for those who want them.
This is coaching and education, not therapy, medical, psychiatric, or legal care. It does not diagnose or treat any condition, and no specific outcome is guaranteed.